“He is not always like this” She said. I was amazed!! I was wondering, in spite of going through abuse…her partner was hitting her, passing sarcastic comments & name shaming. Compliments followed by an insult…list is unending.
This is known as Stockholm syndrome
Several factors contribute to the development of Stockholm syndrome. First, the abuser often controls all aspects of the victim’s life, including food, water, and even their sense of safety. This dependency creates a psychological need for the abusers approval and cooperation for survival. Second, abuser may show occasional kindness or leniency, leading hostages to interpret these gestures as acts of goodwill. This intermittent reinforcement strengthens the bond between abuser and victim.
Stockholm syndrome is not limited to hostage situations but can also occur in abusive relationships. Victims may exhibit behaviours such as defending their abusers, minimizing the severity of their actions, or refusing to cooperate with authorities. This psychological response can be challenging to understand for those outside the situation but is a survival mechanism for the victim’s psyche to cope with the trauma of their circumstances.
A similar situation happened with my client as she was defending her abusive husband, irrespective of going through such hell.
Treatment for individuals experiencing Stockholm syndrome typically involves therapy & counselling to help them understand the dynamics of their situation, regain a sense of autonomy, and develop healthy coping mechanisms. Therapy can help them regain their lost self-esteem which matters a lot to deal and accept such situation. It’s crucial for friends, family, and professionals to approach victims of Stockholm syndrome with empathy and understanding, recognizing the complexity of their emotional attachment and the trauma they have endured.
Here, I can say that counselling & therapy sessions will help the victim to take reins in their hands and live their life in harmonious way.
Arcchana S Wani
